For the next couple of weeks, I’ll be revisiting a couple of my favorite blog posts as I work on a few new projects I have in the pipeline. First up, learning to speak your truth.
Earlier this week, I was reminded of the power that comes from owning your truth. It’s not always easy, especially when speaking your truth means disappointing others. But honoring what is right for you is the most important thing you can ever do in the evolution of your soul. Read on to learn more.
One of the values that drive my work is the power of telling the truth from deep within you. I call it soulful truth telling because it is about honoring what is unfolding in your soul and daring to give words to that unfolding.
But truth telling is hard work. It is far easier for us to create narratives that allow us to avoid pain, either our own or other people’s.
This instinct to avoid pain is human nature but when we fail to tell the truth, even to ourselves, I believe we damage our souls on some level.
Learning to speak your truth is a necessary skill if you are going to stand fully in your power and be the kind of leader you truly want to be. But, like all good soul work, truth telling takes practice.
Here are a few things for you to keep in mind as you baby step your way toward speaking your truth.
Opinions vs. Truth
A truth is much different than an opinion. Opinions are usually about me wanting to be right and the other person wrong.
On the other hand, your “truth” runs much deeper than any opinions. Truth is not about being right; it’s about expressing what you think and feel in an authentic way.
Everyone is not going to agree with you or like what you have to say and that has to be okay. Becoming okay with letting other people down is the hardest part of speaking your truth but it is the most important.
When you first get into the habit of speaking your truth you may be tempted to be defensive as a way to protect your truth.
Remember, however, that your truth telling is not about proving something to someone else; it is about honoring what is really happening for you.
You become defensive if you need to win and winning is not the goal of soulful truth telling. Honoring yourself is the goal.
Speaking your truth involves owning and taking responsibility for your actions and/or the circumstances of your life. It is does not involve pointing fingers or casting blame on someone else.
It is true that someone’s actions may have contributed to you being where you are but your decision to let those actions impact you is yours to own. You always have the power to choose how you respond to what someone else says or does.
As you get in the habit of speaking your truth, keep it about you and what is real for you without bringing anyone else into the story.
There can be no judgment as you practice speaking your truth. If you judge yourself you will never be able to fully own your truth. You will spend more time backpedaling or reframing your truth, which will only lead to you lying (at least to yourself).
Stay out of judgment. Let it be what it is without labeling it as right or wrong, good or bad. Those labels are coming from outside yourself and truth telling is about what’s happening inside you.
This practice of truth telling will feel uncomfortable at first but it is in speaking your truth, even when it’s hard and your voice trembles, that you find freedom and true peace.
Here’s to you learning to speak your truth and rising into your greatness.
From my hear to yours,
If you are ready to learn the tools that will help you speak your truth and step into the life you truly desire for yourself, then let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Greatness Activation call with me today, where we can look at what it is you really want for yourself, what’s been standing in the way, and what it will take to get you to where you want to be. Schedule a call today!