Fear is one of the most powerful emotions that we contend with in life. It can keep you stuck in a place you don’t want to be, too paralyzed by the fear to see a way out.
Most people believe they have to wait for fear to go away before they can do anything. But the truth is fear never goes away.
Any movement toward the things you deeply desire is going to invite fear. Therefore learning to deal with fear is a required skill for moving successfully through life.
Beyond that, though, I believe there are 4 critical things at stake if you’re letting fear win.
Every time you let fear win you are self-sabotaging your potential. You are destined for greatness. No question about it. But the seed of greatness that is in you needs tending to; it needs nurturing and cultivating.
In a garden, weeds will always stunt the growth of a healthy seed, which is why farmers are so militant about getting rid of the weeds in their gardens.
Fear is like a weed ready to choke out the potential of your greatness. Your capacity is diminished and you end up becoming less than you are truly capable of becoming.
It might sound unlikely but the truth is there is something that you are meant to do that ONLY you can do.
It is my belief that we are all a unique expression of the Divine. That uniqueness means that there is an impact that you are uniquely meant to have and nobody else can do it.
It doesn’t mean that your thing won’t look like someone else’s, but it does mean HOW you do your thing will be unique to you. When you let fear win, you rob those around you, and the world at large, of your contribution.
Your legacy and leadership
Letting fear win will negatively impact your leadership legacy. You don’t have to hold a leadership title to be a leader. Leadership is influence.
Any place you have influence, you are leading, whether at home with your kids, at work, in your religious community or even at your gym.
When fear is allowed to run rampant in your head and heart, you model fear-based decision making to those you influence. You teach them that fear is more powerful than a dream and you unintentionally hold them back from their full potential.
On the other hand, when you master fear, you show those you influence the power that comes from showing up despite the fear.
Your inner gumption
Finally, letting fear win ultimately robs you of your inner gumption. The get-up and go that is needed to take risks, set boundaries and chase dreams.
It is gumption that leads you to the magic of life, the magic that’s waiting for you just outside your comfort zone. Without it, you end up with the nagging sense that something is missing in your life.
You lose your spark, the inner drive that moves you forward. It is almost as if the light in your eyes goes out and you end up just going through the motions of life. This loss of gumption is how people arrive at the end of their lives wishing things had been different.
Facing and Friending Fear
I’ve had a lot of practice looking fear in the face and I know what’s possible when you stop letting fear win. I know the delight, the wonder and the magic that unfolds when you feel the fear and do it anyway.
My deepest wish for you is that you may discover the same exquisite experience that comes with facing your fear.
If you would like to learn how to keep your fears from stopping you, check out my Facing and Friending Your Fears training. In this video training you will learn:
- Why the presence of fear is not a bad thing
- The belief behind most fears and how to change that belief
- What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed by fear
- You allow also learn about the two types of fears, including which to deal with and which to simply notice and allow
You can click here to get all the details.
Here’s to you feeling the fear, doing it anyway, and rising into your greatness.
From my heart to yours,