Earlier this week I shared with a group of women why I believe sisterhood is so important. I’ve been thinking a lot about sisterhood because I have recognized my own growing need for a more intentionally developed group of women to surround and support me through my current season of life.
Over the years, I have had women who have walked with me through some of the hardest times of my life. Here lately, I’ve been happily focused on building my business but I’ve noticed something missing in my life. When I checked in with myself I realized I was missing my sisters. I was missing the power of sisterhood.
What is it?
Sisterhood is a bond that goes beyond being family. It connects women to each other and in its most magical manifestations, allows each woman in the sisterhood to thrive in ways she could never do on her own.
Sisterhood provides a safe space for your truest self to emerge. It is a place where your tears are caught not judged, where you are held not ridiculed, and where it’s okay to not be okay.
Sisterhood is also a place to show up, share and heal especially when it feels like your entire world is crumbling around you because, at its core, sisterhood is where YOU are caught, held and nurtured and where you get to do the same for another woman.
Why is it important?
We all crave connection. Not surface level connection but deep heart and soul centered connection if for no other reason but to know that we are neither alone nor are we the “only one”.
The single greatest lie most women believe is that we are the only one going through or dealing with something. When we gather as women we discover that is not true; connection allows us to see that we are not alone.
Unfortunately, there are times when we gather as women and we use our time to gossip about or put other women down. But that is not what true sisterhood looks like.
In true sisterhood we hold each other up. We celebrate another woman’s wins and sorrow with her when she suffers. True sisterhood helps us to share both the light and dark parts of our journey.
It allows us to see the best of who we are in the eyes of another woman. The validation and affirmation that comes from being truly seen by another person are what make sisterhood so powerful and meaningful.
What gets in the way?
But things get in the way of us experiencing that kind of connection with other women.
Our own stories
Our own stories show up and prevent us from really hearing what another woman is sharing. We transpose our stories onto hers and unintentionally either shut her down or shut her out.
When we hold onto our stories, they create filters and we end up in judgment instead of freely being able to love the woman we are with.
Need to be in control
Sisterhood works best when each woman is able to move easily between giving and receiving. When we are used to being the giver, it can be a challenge to be on the receiving end.
But something beautiful happens when we relinquish control and allow ourselves to be received by another woman, a woman who can provide a soft place for us to land. We lose that comfort and support when we choose to armor up instead of opening up.
There is an energy that connects us as women and if we can learn to tap into that energy we truly will change the world.
Here’s to you embracing sisterhood and rising into your greatness.
From my heart to yours,