Your power to choose is the single greatest gift you’ve been given as a human being. Yet it is this power that is often diminished in the minds of women.
You are told you have to stay in the job that makes you unhappy; give that relationship another chance because it’s the “right” thing to do; or contend with a negative person, even though they are toxic to your soul, because it’s what a “good person” would do.
There are countless ways that the pressure of other people’s expectations leave you feeling like you have no choice but to do what is being asked of you, even when you don’t want to.
Every day in one form or another, the world around you subtly convinces you to give up your power to choose, often without you realizing it.
Today I want to remind you that you have the power to…
Choose what you allow
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow” – Unknown
I talk a lot about boundaries because I believe so strongly in the power of boundaries to protect your heart and mind.
I’ve seen too many women fall into the trap of believing they have to accept the way someone treats them. Whether it’s a boss or a loved one, women often feel powerless to do anything about the mistreatment because that person is in a position of authority (real or perceived) over them.
But you don’t have to allow things to continue in your life that you don’t want. You have the power to choose and setting boundaries helps you exercise that power.
Others may make you feel like you don’t have that power. But trust me, the power is yours. It’s up to you to decide to use that power to your advantage.
Choose to change
“Just because that’s the way it’s always been, doesn’t mean that’s the way it has to be” – Unknown
It’s easy to say, “this is just the way I am” as a way of relinquishing your power to choose. But I find that when that phrase is used, it is usually an excuse to avoid doing the work that could bring about a change.
It might be easier to just do what you’ve always done but if it’s not working for you then to keep doing it hoping for a different result is insanity. If you don’t like what you are experiencing in your life then you have the power to change the outcome by making a different decision.
As hard and as uncomfortable as it might be, you can make the choice to change. You can do things differently to honor what’s right for how you really want to show up in your life.
It may feel unsettling initially but in the long run it will help you create the life you really want instead of the one you think you should have or worse yet, settling for one that’s not right for you.
Choose what you believe
“You can change your beliefs so they empower your dreams and desires” Marcia Wieder
Beliefs are powerful forces that drive your behavior. The problem is most of us don’t realize the impact our beliefs have on our lives because our beliefs operate in our subconscious. They are hardly named at a conscious level (unless you’ve done some internal work) yet they often drive behavior in ways that create undesirable outcomes.
Changing limiting beliefs can feel overwhelmingly impossible. Yet science has proven that it is possible to rewire the brain for a new belief system. The key to the change is choice.
You have to choose to believe something new and then make decisions from that new belief. It’s that simple but simple doesn’t mean easy. It takes intentionality but it is possible to change an old belief that is not working for you to one that can support you in achieving the dreams you desire.
Never mistake a difficult situation as a sign that you are powerless. You always have the power to choose what’s happening in your mind, your heart and ultimately in your life. The power is yours.
Here’s to you never giving up your power to choose so you can rise into your greatness.
From my heart to yours,
If you recognize that you may have allowed others to convince you to give up your power to choose and you’re ready to do something about it, let’s talk. Click here to schedule a complimentary call with me to discuss how you can reclaim your power.